Sweet Daughter of Mine –

Some people might say that you talk too much, but I am here to remind you that your voice is a gift.  You’ve got words, so use them.  Use them as much when you are elated as when you are frustrated.  Don’t shut down.  Don’t shut people out.  If you are hurt, tell them.  If they shut down and your instinct is to keep talking, do so.  If you feel the need to express extreme frustration or hurt with extreme words, do so.  Be as honest with your words as the love you give.  Do everything as authentically to the moment as you can.

But, Daughter of Mine, that moment may shift. When it does, be humbled.  Be humbled but once again, don’t shut down.  Don’t silence your words.  Be humbled and say sorry.  If you need to write it down, do so.  Tuck it away in a scrap piece of paper into the front pocket of your hoodie.  Bring it out when the moment is right.  Hand it over, tears in your eyes.  You can’t always say it, but written language is as important as spoken word.  This, I will teach you, daughter of mine.

You should also know, sweet Daughter of Mine, that your words can hurt or deter people from moving closer.  Use language authentically but know that when you are authentic to the moment, that has the potential to sting, scare, or scar.  Tread lightly in the extremes and do your best to balance honouring the moment with avoiding harm to those whom you truly love. 

Drop the F bomb when the moment is right.  If you are hurt, scream it.  Fuck, it feels good.  Learn to balance this too.  Know your audience, sweet Daughter of Mine.  Use language appropriate to the setting in which you find yourself.  Use your limbs too, when you tell a story.  Go big or go home.  Be a storyteller.  Every good storyteller knows you’ve got to drop a few cuss words to captivate the audience.  And, one last thing, sweet Daughter of Mine, fuck those who say you talk too much. 

Much love,

Your Mama, who talks too much.